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The Bachelor party advice page**
All you will every need to know about
how where and whom to invite.... |
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| The Bachelor Party |
The Wedding Day |
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| Introduction
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So your
best bud is about to tie the knot, and you as
the best man are in charge of giving him a kick-ass
bachelor party!!!!! One final HOO-HAA that the
groom-to-be won't soon forget no matter how much
he tries...
If you and your mates are the type that can't
be bothered with the hassle involved in getting
hold of every one, from mates to strippers to
venue's to clubs etc.. then a small gathering
with loads of beer while parking off on the coach
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| But why Larry. WHY??
The boyz wanna PARTY!! |
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The Lads from bachelorparty.co.za have
taken all the hassle out of everything! So whether you
just want to cruise from club to club or chill out on
our party barge at Harties complimented by a live band,
international strippers and full fireworks display we
recommend that you take some time and give some serious
thought to your plan!
With out a plan you risk squandering loads of cash as
well as pissing off some partygoers, and putting the
groom in such hot water with bokkie that it will all
be over before it begins.
Stress not my young lad!! Its not like to fate of the
entire marriage rests on your shoulders...? All that
and they still expect you to remember the RING!!!!!
Ag Moerit... Fear not as we have created a guide that
outlines everything you need to know in order to plan
an unforgettablish - final Hoo-HaaaAAA!!! |
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Step
1. Who Cracks the invite nod...?
**Keep it in the circle! ** |
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As per the the old fashioned DIG's
parties where the rule of thumb was "Hoe Meerder
Hoe Lekkerder" HiCk uP..! the last thing you
want is give out an open invitation to everyone
and their mothers. While there isn't a set number
of people you should invite, make sure that
all the guests are trusted friends "i.e." Lads
who won't drop the gory details to the bride
on the eve on the wedding night!
This doesn't mean that friends and relatives
of the bride should be excluded as there is
an unwritten "code of silence" among the men
in regards to these things, so if the bride's
brother is a good bloke and you don't want him
to feel like a tool and only if you're confident
he'll appreciate a good time and
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not let it get back to his sister, then
let him come along. However there are certain pitfalls
which must be duly noted:
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- Don't invite any of the groom's work mates unless
you're prepared to invite all of them. If rumors
get out that someone wasn't invited to the bachelor
party, your mate could be neck deep in office politics
on Monday.
- Make it clear that you don't want friends bringing
other friends, thereby defeating the purpose of
the affair.
- As for the one tool in the group that we all know
we have.. That clingon mate who never gets the message
and who you all know you can't trust... Well, to
avoid insulting him, you might want to emphasize
how much the party costs, in the hopes of discouraging
him, if not... Who cares don't invite him he's a
tool anyway and its about time he got the message!
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Step
2. Where and When...
**When to do it.. ** |
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Consider the the Grooms situation as, Yeah!,
it would be great to surprise him. Picture this...
He screams as you take a picture of his embarrassment
to post on the Internet as a priceless moment,
however surprise parties can sometimes be accompanied
by serious baggage. What would have happen if
you surprised your mate with a roomful of strippers
in his house on the night his future mother
in law is coming over to finalize the wedding
plans.
Ages ago, bachelor parties were typically formal,
all-male, black-tie dinners in which all guests
behaved like gentlemen and drank a toast to
the groom-to-be. Sounds like a barrel of laughs
NOT!!.
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Thank the good lord, times have changed
and modern bachelor parties tend to cater to the specific
interests of the groom in a much more informal setting.
Other than that, the only limit is your creativity.
Keep the groom in mind...
As best man, there is no doubt that you know
the groom best, think about what he'd probably like
to do. While most lads are familiar with the clubbing
booze cruise with stripper and the whole hooch, we have
found that people are now leaning toward more creative
activities as listed under our Xtreme activities link
- check it out for some hot tips and ultimate adrenaline
rushes!
Tell us when!
During the 80's bachelor parties where held on the same
weekend or even the night before the wedding... Can
you imagine! We strongly recommend hosting such a party
about a week before the wedding day as we all agree
getting rat faced two nights in a row is just to hard
for marrying men to handle! What would be the point
of going so large the night before that you all Zombie
out at the ceremony and put the groom in a situation
that he nods off during his wife's toast...? oh boy..
Then you as best man will be in Mondo KAK! Do it a week
prior, you will all be grateful... Trust us! |
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Step
3. Make it happen...
**The budget speech...** |
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So you've decided on the package,
destination and stripper, it's time to make
the arrangements.
The budget speech...
Figure out how much you and the lads are willing
to pay? Genius, isn't it? It goes without saying
that all the lads split the costs and the groom
gets off "Gratis & Verniet.." Well almost
he will pay in kind as his liver goes into over
drive. Costs will vary greatly pending the activities
planned and the amount of people, when transportation,
drinks, reservation fees, Cover charges and
entertainment are put together, each person
could typically be out R350-R1000. To make sure
that everyone's clear on this,
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send out the invites, give them a rough idea of how
much they'll be expected to cough up. |
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Book
the babes..
**Yeah baby yeah! **
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What a Vibe! Round up a bunch of chicks and
have them get in the nod to loads thumping tunes!!
Yeah....! be careful!!! You actually
have to be extremely careful about how you go
about it. Many of these "adult entertainment"
companies are not as reputable as you think!.
So if you do not intend to book everything through
bachelorparty.co.za we urge you to follow these
important tips:
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- We have heard stories where agencies may send
entertainers to your party that aren't exactly of
the "standard" you expected when you booked them.
You have to hate it when they leave a lingering
fishy smell as they walk in the door or even worse
are hairier than you are or have no front teeth.
Should this happen, you have no option but to have
a sharpie at the bar, squint your eyes, and thank
the good lord that she will be hanging on the groom
for the next 20 min and pray she doesn't wiggle
her little fanny over to your side of the room.
- Find out if photographing or videotaping is allowed.
Usually, it's a No No and you don't want an angry
stripper and her 2 ton Nigerian body guard sitting
on your head whilst unraveling the film in your
camera...
- Get any deals you make in writing. Most reputable
companies will fax or E-mail you a copy of any contract
agreed upon. Also, ask for a written description
of the "show" for any entertainment you book.
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Step 4. Let the good times roll...
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After meticulous planning and decisive management
decisions, following a few sleepless nights
due to nightmares riddled with images of hairy
strippers and grossly enlarged versions of your
mates bride snapping at you heels with Doberman
styled teeth, your exhausted, right? All that
and the party hasn't even begun....! Relax lad,
your main duty is complete all you have to do
now is show up, have a few sharpies and try
not loose the groom.. More easily said than
done, they have a habit of wondering off in
their drunker than skunk states!
So what bachelor party would be complete without
the ol'-ball-and-chain for him to drag around
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night by his ankle. You can easily construct one
from a bowling ball and a bit of old chain. Another
mainstay, of course, is the blowup doll. Make it a
rule for the night that he carries it wherever he
goes.
So whatever you decide to do on the evening is entirely
up to you, you'll probably want to stick to"guy stuff."
and mandatory activities such as drinking heavily! Even
if the groom's not a big drinker, do a shot or two with
your best pals and tell siff jokes. |
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5. Keep it tidy.... |
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Yeah,
Booze, projectile burping, naked woman and a moere
of a good time! Don't forget the aim of the party
is to show the groom and your mates a good time,
as dull as it sounds you still have to act responsibly
the last thing you want is to send the groom down
the isle with a black eye and a few broken ribs.
One of your main responsibilities you have is
to make sure everyone doesn't wind up in a tangle
with the U21 touring rugby team from some Australasian
country in the parking lot of a club... and MOST
IMPORTANTLY to make sure everyone has a safe ride
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Also, remember that when a loads of the
lads are out on the piss, things could potentially slip
out of control. While we don't expect you to be a baby-sitter,
it's a good idea to look out for the groom and to enlist
the lads to look out for each other and to avoid tangles
when ever possible, they must not to be inconsiderate
as its a party not a barney!
In Closing, don't forget to remind the groom that he's
getting married. Ya ya, it's his last night of freedom,
but don't get the poor lad shit faced drunk and pressure
him into nobbing his Ex to prove he still has the touch...
Its not your job to doom the wedding but see to it that
he actually gets to the chapel on time and more Importantly
in one piece, unbruised and unscathed.
Once you've followed these steps, carefully planned
the party in conjunction with www.bachelorparty.co.za
and respected the groom's wishes, there's only one thing
left to do.........!
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Hit the bar for a few swift sharpies, and save
one for us!
See you at the jol lads.
Regards - Kevin & The Bachelor party team.
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| The Wedding Day |
| 1. Build up to the
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Basically
its your responsibility to round up the lads for
the bachelor party and show the groom a good time!
Following which, in the days building up to the
event you are the one responsible for re-assuring
him that he is making the right decision as this
is one of, if not the biggest and most long term
decisions he will make in his life. Make him feel
good about it! (Make sure he has the ring in a
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Its your responsibility to get the groom to the
church on time... Meet your man at his house or
hotel, make sure he is suited up, looking pretty
and smelling good! (Before you leave - Make sure
you have the ring!) You might want to throw in
a few light hearted jokes to put him at ease and
if you can pick up he is nervous as heck then
a quick trip to the bar on your way through to
the venue for a cold beer or a stiff sharp one
might be in order to loosen up those joints! (Before
you leave - Make sure you have the ring!)
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The Chapel |
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You and the groom
will be welcoming the guests at the chapel as
they arrive so keep him close, smile allot and
- Make sure you have the ring!
During the ceremony your only responsibility is
to stand next the groom and make sure you look
cool and - Make sure you have the ring!
When called upon to do so you may hand over the
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The Reception |
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The MC will invite
everyone into the reception room and depending
on the formality of the function and the bridal
couples preferred order, the guests will be seated
to welcome the bridal couple into the hall following
which the MC will conduct the initial welcome.
Starters will be served and speeches will follow
between the starter and main dishes. the General
order of affairs is for the MC to welcome everyone
crack a joke or two and the hand over to you for
your speech and toast, you will then hand back
to him for him to invite the father of the Bride
to say a few words then on to the groom himself
and the bride if necessary. The Main coarse will
then be served followed by the 1st dance, deserts
and the party! The garter and Bouquet will follow
during the evening and the MC will conduct these
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Your Speech |
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Depending on your
persona and confidence you may crack a joke or
two to break the ice and then move on to say a
few words about the groom and what a Pukka guy
he really is! Avoid delving into his dark past,
stick to his values and his finer qualities, you
can lightly touch on the bride and how beautiful
she looks however avoid toasting her directly
as this is the grooms responsibility. It is however
you responsibility to formally toast the brides
maids so raise you glass to them and toast away.
In closing you may also toast the bridal couple
them selves. |
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Toasting tips |
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These tips have
been formulated to you as the best man ready for
the day at hand. Decide in advance when you will
begin the toasting and make sure the wedding party
knows the plan. Its your job to toast the Brides
maids and in closing to toast the bridal couple. |
| 7. Be Prepared |
Prepare any speech
ahead of time long or short, no matter how formal
or casual you wish to make you toast and speech,
impromptu speeches often lack meaning which shows
disrespect to the bridal couple. |
| 8. Stick to basics |
Don't put on a
dramatic speech if you are not generally that
way inclined. Be yourself, speak using your normal
tone and vocabulary, and don't ramble on. If you
are a bit nervous don't hold your glass while
speaking to avoid the shakes, instead put down
next to you and raise it for the toast! |
| 9. Address everyone |
Don't bring up
inside jokes unless everyone will understand if
it's negative or inappropriate, don't go there!
It is not a 21st so Joking about drunken escapades
or a former girlfriends just isn't funny and shows
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| 10. Keep their Attention |
If the audience
can't hear you, you will lose their attention.
Speak in a strong voice or use a microphone. |
| 11. Finishing |
When you are finished,
let the audience know it's time to stand and toast
the bridal couple. Something like "Please
join me in congratulating the happy couple, Mark
& Mindi" |
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For further details and bookings contact:
thebachelor@bachelorparty.co.za
083-251-8784
Please note:
These packages are also available for birthday parties
/ corporate functions or just cause you wanna…!!
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